I have a big problem; for a long time now I haven't found my girlfriend sexually attractive. Since we met many years ago, she has put on more and more weight. The girl of around 10 stone (140-ish pounds) is ancient history – nowadays she could reach a hefty 14 stone (200lbs). She is aware of it and constantly says she thinks she is too fat – but she doesn't see the implications. I do – and it is extreme. So much so that I now am never in the mood for sex, which for me is a very bad sign. Actually that isn't quite right: I do want to have sex. Just not with her. The problem is I look after my body and my appearance. I go to the gym, don't have an awful fashion sense and I am also pretty well off financially. In other words, I believe that I just need to not hide, and when I am completely honest for a moment (because this is Sinr after all), I deserve better. By that I don't mean skin-and-bone models who break just by looking at them, but just a well proportioned body. By the way, I don't care if women have a bit of a belly. The main thing is that if the overall view is good. Basically I need a woman who is sexy.
Before you swing your "how can someone be so superficial" bat at me, or tell me that it is what's inside that counts – which by the way is complete bullshit – here is the explanation of why I haven't left her: she is the most wonderful human being that I have ever met. Never has anyone touched my heart as much as she does. Every day. And for that reason I can't and I don't want to go. And it is this conflict that is really tearing me apart. So I'm dancing on a minefield. And no, I am not interested in getting sex elsewhere. I have never cheated in my life and I am definitely not starting now.
Posted on 06.03.2013, 18:15:13 CET